Where are we heading?

I had no plans of updating my blog for some time, as I said in my last post. But something in the papers today forced me to add a post. In case you are among the new high-bred generation for whom “newspaper” means just Delhi Times and the sports section, click here to get the article on TOI.

A husband tries to rape his wife, that too along a friend? Where has the human morality reached? More specifically, where has the human male’s morality reached? Have we stooped so low that we have forgotten fundamentals of human civility? This man tried to rape his wife with a friend of his in his car. And according to HT, he then pushed her off the moving car and called her parents and asked them to pick her up. Should not such people be hanged? Or taken to a public place and stoned to death? Before you vehemently nod you head in a frantic yes, I want to add one thing more.

Suppose the woman is lying? That is, what if nothing of that sort happened and she is falsely trying to implicate her husband?

Aghast? Astonished? Surprised? You never thought on that lines, did you? Now under no circumstances am I telling that something of this sort happened here, but however low I think of the male kind, I can’t think someone educated could do something like that And I’m not just talking about civility or moral values or something. How can someone do something that is so fuckingly foolish, in such a foolish manner something that is bound to put him behind bars for good. Not only he tries to rape his wife, that too in a car but he brings along a friend too. Then he throws her off the moving car and calls her parents and tells them to pick her up. How fucking foolish is that? Who will do that? No one in sane mind for sure. Something like that will guarantee you a place behind jails with 24 hours. Even an uneducated jhuggi-wala knows that. Under all probability the incident may be true, but I'm having serious doubts about it.

Which brings me to the point of the topic. As I said, the above case might be correct or false, that is a separate matter. What concerns me the most is how readily one believes such stories. Where you not filled with anguish and hatred against this man when you read the story? I was, for sure. Suppose the man was really innocent, how many of us are going to believe that? Even if he is declared innocent by the court, people will think, “Amir aadmi hoga saala, paise khila diya hoga.” Just think how his life going to change. People will despise him, women would run from half a mile of spotting him. He would have a stigma his entire life.

Since reading the story, my greatest fear is suppose if I refuse to pay for my girlfriend’s jewellery and she goes to police tomorrow and tells them I tried to rape her, what chance would I stand to prove my innocence? Who’s gonna believe “ABM’s such a gentle guy; he would never harm even a mosquito”? (OK I know few people will, but then few people even believe Mannu Sharma is innocent, point is, it doesn’t matter if people on my side are FEW). The Indian society is slowly changing into one where such people are loathed upon for eternity, the public voices their sentiments voraciously against them (which are positive changes) and even the courts are under pressure to give verdict against them (which is not). I can imagine thousands of people leading a march in India Gate and lighting millions of candles and shouting slogans like “Hang that bastard ABM”. I would have no option but to curse the day I refused her to pay for the fucking jewellery she bought, as the “jallad” is putting a black cloth over my head.

Few people (read women) would argue a woman would never do such a thing, put her “izzat” into stake. But even women are humans (perhaps) and can be greedy and jealous too. With the modernization of our society such old notions like no woman puts her modesty at stake are getting a backseat. Which means modern women are capable of such a thing, if they have to, perhaps for some worldly gain, in the same manner a corrupted official misuses his powers. So my fellow brothers, beware! I’ve done my duty as a responsible male. It’s your turn now to think about the matter.